"BE DO BE, not DO BE DO" - The Secret of Elite Performance

I have shared in the past about the moments of enlightenment I've had over these past five years. I thought from living these wonderful experiences that produce tremendous insights, I would be able to master being in this state of presence all the time by getting more of it, if I were to work on it more, have more therapy, attend more support meetings, be a part of more groups, received more training - JUST OBTAIN MORE...

I used to think enlightenment was all about getting yourself ready to act the part. Most people have given up believing they can make a difference and have sold their souls for the comfort of enough pieces of silver to satiate themselves with life in consumer paradise. This is ultimately unsustainable.

As Joseph Campbell said "people build the ladder of success to find they've placed it against the wrong wall". Joseph Riggio calls this "structural illformedness". In essence, I thought I had to be doing stuff that got me to feel the way I wanted to be rather than starting with myself and being the way I want to be first. As Joseph says it's "BE DO BE, not DO BE DO :-)." Now I don't NEED to be the person centre stage - I get MUCH more satisfaction BEING ME. One of the key secrets to elite communicators is that they're NOT "doing a performance" as in NOT being genuine or authentic and just acting as if. What they are doing is being themselves, open, authentic, being vunerable and sharing themselves, their real humanness with others. This, for those that have the courage to do this generates the charisma that is magnetically attractive. But this is not for everyone, as I said it takes courage to step up.

I actually don't want to work with every client that comes to my coaching practice. Most people want their solution to match how they have defined their problem. A nice easy safe answer, a band-aid, sticking-plaster, not a cure or shift. A painful change for the time being - most likely to not be repeated when the same situation should arise once again in the near future.

I work with people who start building the structural wellformedness. From here it's not a question of techniques to "not stutter" - it's just not doing the old patterns which are usually about where tension is held.

As I have "came to believe", I could still "stutter" if I wanted to, but instead I've gone where the problem is NOT so that's not who I am any more.